A Women’s Guide to Gender-Based Violence: Your Rights, Support and Protection in Germany
International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women
Today, On November 25th in Germany and worldwide we observe the International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women. We would like to dedicate time to the topic of gender-based violence, including violence experienced by women and those of other gender identities.
Why Gender-Based Violence Often Remains Hidden
How Silence Shapes Experiences of Abuse
So often it can feel like those issues–whether it is perinatal mental health or abusive relationship dynamics–that affect us are talked about in our private conversations, in tones just above a whisper. We share with a friend or relative about what we are experiencing, barely daring to say the words. While these experiences are shared by so many, there exist so few public spaces to speak and share and connect with one another. The potential power of collective awareness and action remains untapped and we move through our own experiences alone.
Immigrant Women and Barriers to Leaving Abusive Relationships
Understanding Legal and Cultural Challenges in Germany
This was my experience with the topic of intimate partner violence. In conversations over coffee, friends would share their experiences with a partner who was emotionally or physically abusive. As kids ran around in the background we would sit together and try to sort out her options. Among the common questions around logistics, my friends–immigrants like me–would voice concerns about their immigration status or the extent to which a German family court would favor the German parent over the non-citizen should they choose to leave their abusive partner. In many cases, a lack of understanding of the German legal system as well as the system of support for those impacted by gender-based violence led them to stay with their abusive partners.
The Importance of Accurate Information and Support
Why Reliable Information Helps Women Make Safer Decisions
I now work for an organization that supports those experiencing intimate partner violence and have far more information. I feel prepared when the topic comes up in my private conversations with friends or in Afloat support groups and I can often help work through misinformation and perceived barriers to accessing the existing system of support. Having access to accurate information is essential. With information we can better understand our rights, the systems of support, and make informed choices.
Understanding Your Rights Under the Istanbul Convention
Legal Protections for Women Experiencing Abuse
With that in mind, here are some things to know in order to build our knowledge around gender-based violence:
No one deserves to be treated disrespectfully or abusively whether in their relationship with a partner or another relationship. Abuse–whether physical, emotional, financial, or psychological–is illegal. Germany along with 44 other countries has ratified the Istanbul Convention–a human rights treaty opposing violence against women. The Istanbul Convention stipulates that all signatories ensure adequate and responsive systems of support for those impacted by violence. If you have experienced abuse, you have done nothing wrong. You have the right to feel safe and access support.
Immigration Status and Leaving an Abusive Partner in Germany
How Germany Protects Immigrant Women Leaving Abuse
Additionally, the Istanbul Convention states that leaving an abusive partner should not negatively impact immigration status. Despite it being a common concern for immigrants considering leaving an abusive relationship, in the vast majority of cases their right to stay in Germany is protected and maintained.If you have experienced abuse you have the right to leave the relationship without putting yourself at risk for losing your immigration status in Germany.
National Hotline for Gender-Based Violence in Germany (116 016)
Confidential, Multilingual Help Available 24/7
The national hotline dedicated to gender-based violence is available in 18 languages and can be reached by dialing 116 016. The hotline is available 24/7. Those impacted by abuse, friends or family members of those impacted, or others seeking information can reach out to the hotline. Hotline staff members are knowledgeable and skilled and will talk through options as well as connect you to local resources.
If you have been impacted by abuse and are located in Germany, you can reach someone who can help by calling 116 016.
Counselling Centres for Women and Survivors Across Germany
Local Support and Guidance for Every Situation
Counseling centers dedicated to working with those who are impacted by abuse regardless of their background, preferred language, income, or relationship status are located throughout Germany. It is possible to make an appointment at a counseling center to get information regarding options–including legal options–that are specific to the situation. This website provides information about counseling centers throughout Germany.
If you would like to learn more about your options, it is possible to make an appointment at a counseling center near you. Here you can access support from center staff who can support you.
Women’s Shelters and Safe Housing Options in Germany
Safe Accommodation and Support for Women and Children
Women’s shelters* are located throughout Germany and provide a safe place to live for those who have experienced abuse as well as for their kids. The location of shelters is anonymous to ensure safety. While living in a shelter both adults and kids have access to support and counseling. While the decision to move into a shelter is a big one that often brings a lot of uncertainty, those who take this step are brave and strong in prioritizing their safety and the safety of their kids.It is possible to find a shelter using this website.
*Many women’s shelters are available to people of a variety of gender identities. If you need to leave where you are living for your safety, you can reach out to a shelter. Many shelters can be reached 24/7. Shelters are safe places for people to live as they plan for their next step.
Every Person Deserves Safety and Support
Standing Together Against Gender-Based Violence
Every person deserves to be safe and free from abuse. Whether you are someone who has been impacted by violence, are a friend or family member of someone, or are simply someone who has it on their periphery, on November 25th and everyday we are in this together.